I just wanted to restate that the issue isn't physical release. The issue is, at least for this HD spouse, the need to feel desired by my wife. I feel that desire best when she actively participates in ML to me, when she occasionally initiates it, when she is playful and when she is actively pursuing me.
I don't know about others, but sleeping alone as a bachelor wasn't a difficult thing to do at all. I look back now and think I would very much enjoy the lack of stress that sleeping that way would entail. Sleeping with a spouse that really has no sexual desire for you is about the loneliest thing that I've yet experienced.
