Dieda also says that if a woman will not follow her man, then he needs to seriously think about finding another woman. You say you cannot leave your wife because of religious reasons, but I think that just makes a convenient excuse for you. There are plenty of people in all religions who will divorce if need be. The argument that you stay for your kids is not sufficient. You and your wife put forth a poor image and there will likely be problems for you kids when then grow up. Divorce is not good. But a divorce and a healthy, functional remarriage can overcome many of the problems kids would otherwise develop. Stop using your kids and your religion as an excuse to not confront your own fears. You have one of the highest levels of denial I have seen on this board.
