I'm going to take a different approach to your situation, based on what's going on and how I perceive you to feel about it. If I'm off base somewhere, let me know.
I believe that you should proceed with the divorce from your end. Get yourself an attorney and get this done, and I really think you need to get it done NOW. This man, if he is being irresponsible financially, is going to impact your life in more than emotional ways otherwise. I say this also because I detect in you a readiness to move on to a certain extent. Which brings me to my second point.
It's ok to get to a point where you are ready to move on.
Quote: I feel like the possibility of my H and I getting back together is slim to none. It's almost a lost cause. It's at that point that I start feeling like throwing in the the towel. But by throwing in the towel, I don't mean writing him off forever. I mean opening myself up to the possibility of being with someone else. If he can get himself together before someone else snatches me up, then so be it.
Separation of over a year, no contact from H, not even any contact when you try to contact him for BUSINESS. Not something that you have to endure forever. But I think he deserves to know this. I know that's a bit upsetting, because he has not extended the same courtesy, but then we are not THEM.
Most people around here don't want to say things like this out loud. But it's not sacriligous to suggest that there be a limit to our pain and emptiness. Just make sure that you have reached out to him before you go. Give him a chance to realize that you are dropping the rope so to speak, just in case that scares him.
Sorry for your situation. Really I am.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
