Hey socal. This ties in with the "leverage" discussion over here. And I agree. You can tell your spouse, "I will not live in a sexless marriage forever" until the cows come home. Until you're ready to truly walk out the door, why should they listen? (And of course, I'm saying that, knowing that of course they should listen). They've likely heard your complaints, threats, pleas, rants, before, and still they haven't had to change their behavior. They know that, with continued deflection, they never need to change.
