Well, I regret that I may have to give this board up altogether. Things are still good and growing between my W and I, but there has been something new.
Right now I'm so angry and frustrated I don't know what to do.
As anyone who's read my sitch knows, one of the things that has made this so difficult is that my W contracted gential herpes from the OM and passed it on to me. Well, it turns out she has it orally as well as genitally and my 11 year old just got a cold sore. Never had one before in his life and while it is possible that it wasn't passed along by my W, it's highly likely that is exactly what happened.
So I apologize in advance because this is partly due to my anger right now but all you dumb@sses out there who have no self-control, who would rather dishonor yourselves, lie and manipulate and whatever just so you can be happy by screwing someone you like better than your spouse and think you can control the entire situation, you can't.
It may be rare that something like this ends up affecting a child but what kind of person takes that bet? My hope is that one cheating idiot out there might read this and stop and think about what's going on for a minute and how sorry they will be when they realize how much this stuff affects our children in ways you can't control or know in advance.
The only way to be safe is to live right. It's bad when things happen to kids but it's worse when you're responsible because you couldn't keep your pants zipped or your legs together and make an honorable choice even if you think it won't make you happy.
Your innocent child's right to happiness trumps yours.
The pain of this is unbearable and I know it's tough for my W but right now I just don't care. I feel like I've let him down by choosing someone for his mother who obviously didn't deserve him. I'm just sick about it.
You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means. -- Inigo Montoya, 'The Princess Bride'
