I think they feel justified for a number of reasons. First off I think they being with another person gives them a (false) sense of purpose and a sense of attractiveness and self worth which eventually starts to fade as new problems arrise in the new relationship. At some point we have to be accountable for our actions and I believe it is they who will suffer for their actions in the futur. Never soon enough by our standards. Last night at Divorce Care, I wittnessed first hand the pain a woman was going thru because she jumped right into another relationship that struggled for years and that has recently come to an end. She can now see that she would have needed to deal with the issues then as opposed to now. *Footnote* 50% of first marriages fail, 85% of second marriages fail, 95% of third marriages fail. Pretty staggering statistics. Secondly, I think they feel justified because at the moment they think they are getting what they need from that relationship maybe because it's new and exciting or because it fills that void that they are feeling not knowing that it is not that, that they need. Happiness starts from within, a hard thing to accept, but a truth non the less. I feel sorry for those who get involved with them because they (spouse) honestly can not offer themselves completly to the other, and even if it takes years to come to a head, it will all the same, at some point. I take solace in knowing that I have remained faithfull not just for me but also for my 6 year old daughter whom I have living with me. I know that I can teach her to choose better options in life if I can present them to her. Lead by example. Your kids will benefit in the end. I'm sure there are a multitude of reasons for their arrogance which I'm sure others will bring to light for you. This is just my take on the situation.
