Great post!!!! I am soooo thrilled to read that things are well and more then that you are focusing on a truly healthy relationship (i.e. GALing and DBing). I have to agree with you 100% about the whole thing not being about them coming back, but creating a better self which ultimately helps in creating better relationships.
Also, I can understand about the backsliding. I have to watch that too. I find when I backslide things aren't so smooth. I think it takes a lot of practice and effort in the beginning of piecing to make healthy behaviors and PMA habit. And then every so often we need to review where we are.
Actually the suffering from the A and thoughts about it will stop, but it will take many years. Eventually you'll be able to think about it and even imagine it without any pain. Yes, in 7 to 10 years it will be nothing. Honestly.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
