Quote: (newbies, take note, it's hard for the WAS to process forgiveness)
Exactly. And it's just as hard for us to actually live it. It's not an even; it's a process. Sure, we decided initially to do it, but we have to keep cashing that in for them every day.
WAS definitely feel like they don't deserve it...cause they never tell you everything...and they KNOW how badly they did you. I came to realize that's one of the reasons it takes so much time. They have to see it's for real.
Easier said than done...but like most of this stuff it gets easier the more it's done!
Quote: I have to work even harder on scaling down my hissy fits
Heh! I'll bet you do. I'll bet they're pretty good
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Sooooo, we are both still working at understanding each other, and I have learned that if I pile the drama too thick he thinks I'm taking revenge, and that's the last thing on earth I'd every do. So, I need to work on myself more on that part.
That's great! So glad to hear it!
Quote: TL, I need to be at that same level of detachment you are, I still hang onto my H to feel good about myself, I sort of regressed s a bit when he came back, hoping he'd "make it all right".
Yeah but you're rockin' now...a veritable boiling cauldron of DB hotness!
Quote: Now that' I'm the "aggressive" one in the SL department, he says it feels strange since I was never like that, so I guess it is time to change strategies and not pursue him as much even if we do ML each tiem I do. It will be hard but it needs to be done, I need to stop depending on him to feel good
Hey, I may be missing something but that may not be a bad thing. Change and newness can be really good and simply reinforce the idea that things are new and different. Why not just go after him (as long as he's open to it) not to make yourself feel good but just cause it's fun and, hey, y'all are married, you have a license after all!
You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means. -- Inigo Montoya, 'The Princess Bride'
