You are doing so well. You are living proof that the DB principles work. Michelle says if something is working, keep doing it ... so that's where you are at now.
I don't think you can underestimate how torn H is right now. He's got himself in a pickle and he's trying to find a way out of it. He's a business man, so he'll be looking for a win-win or at least a best negotiated strategy. I guess that's where he is now.
You just have to hold firm. It might not hurt him to think that this is trying your patience and let him believe that if he leaves you dangling for too long, he might be too late to come back. I'll bet you guys have a sales strategy for that? You know, treat 'em like you don't care and you have plenty of other investors ready to make the sale. That kind of strategy is just as transferrable to matters of the heart.
Right now, he knows that you are 'waiting' for him and he feels confident in taking as long as he needs. What do you do when clients behave like that?
Just keep doing what is working. No R talk, back off, don't appear needy or clingy, no snooping and for goodness sake do some stuff for yourself. Keep going to the gym and increase the intensity of your workout (exercise, particularly cardio-vascular exercise is unbeatable for helping you on blue days - it's as good or better than anti-depressants), go to the movies with some girlfriends, enrol in golf lessons - anything - just get some quality things in your life that are just for you. Even when he comes home you are going to need activities to focus on so you dont' become consumed on the minutia of your domestic life.
Take care
V
Never make someone a priority, who makes you an option.
