Tambear: I am with whatis on this one, actually, I am planning on using that line myself (good one!) I have asked for lunch or dinner as a friend, only to be told that I am "pushing it". I have gotten to a place now where I am about to just start having fun with it, that is after all why she fell in love with me. Today, she had some Qs about mediation paperwork and how to figure some of the monthly amounts out, she said it was really complicated and couldn't figure it out so I said "what the heck, lets just call the divorce off" She looked at me like I was crazy, but then she caught herself just before she smiled. I followed it up about an hour later with "do you think it would help to hold you upside down and shake you?" She of course replied that "no, that most likely would not help." So my reply was "good, then I am glad I didn't do it."
My point is, if there is a point, be who YOU want to be and let the rest of the situation be what it is going to be. You really don't have any controll over it anyways.
I think the nest time she gets all "serious" about everything, I am just going to tell her to "lighten up, it is going to be what it is going to be." Probably not, but it is a nice thought and if we can believe it, then we can make it happen.
