That's a great start, Tambear! for the first time H has to stop and think "why isn't she calling? Why isn't she nagging me?" You are changing the dynamic. Now you must be consistent. If he calls consider it a gift, if he doesn't write it off. Try not to invest too much emotionally in his actions. I think he's knows he's got it made in the shade. He counts on you pursuing him. Now maybe he will have a little pang of anxiety when you change that dynamic. See how it goes. I know how hard it is to do what you are doing today. Good job!!!!
