For me, and I can't say this applies to you... but I remember being frantic about saving my marriage and eventually morphing into a "Stepford wife." (eeek!)
I have to say, looking back, the biggest mistake I made was not emotionally detaching sooner, GALing and really focusing on me. Life is short, so try and have some fun. Buy an amazing outfit. Look good and work on living well without H. If he died tomorrow what would you be doing? Get a fabulous group of friends together, go to Happy Hour one night a week with girlfriends, see a movie on another night. Hey, go dancing! LIVE!!!!
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
