Tambear, think about times when you are NOT thinking about H. What is happening, what are you doing? There must be times when your mind is on other things. Look for exceptions to the norm (the norm being worrying and fretting about H) and try and repeat those things. What things have you done in the past that worked when you were like this? I find physical activity really helps, you know, running, walking, dance, yoga whatever works for you. Are there things you've always wanted to learn, maybe a new language, cooking style, aerobics because now is the time to let those new exciting growth experiences into your life. Lastly, get in touch with your higher power, look to something that is bigger than both you and your sitch. It can get better and, the reality is, the only way to get him back is to take care of you. How can we expect our S's to love us if we don't love ourselves first? Start there. Take care.
