Yes, DB principles also apply, and piecing is almost as hard as DB'ing when separated. Some days one questions if it was wise to have reconciled, so dont' despair if you feel like that. I'll quote my H "sometimes we take 1step forward and 2 back".
When we reconcile we want to pick up where we left off *when things were good* and that is just not feasable. Also, we want our Ss to be on the same pg as us.
I know my H thougth about coming back a few times when he was away and didnt' becuase we'd argue or something like that, so it is understandable she gets scared sometimes. Be loving and patient, you dont' want her to think she moved to fast. You've been very patient, you will need more of that in the coming months.
It took a few months for my H's affection to come back too, so many of us ached here that we couldn't receive nor give the affection we craved. So in that aspect we also had to be very patient.
I pray all goes well and that you sit still and let your W work out her inner turmoil and have her come to you.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
