Welcome to Piecing. In some ways it really is more challenging than DBing. I think it's wise to take things slowly, start dating your spouse and work on developing a friendship.
Also, if there are any painful topics, you might want to avoid these for awhile. I think it's wise to let a good amount of time pass and work on getting a strong friendship in place before tackling any "ugly" stuff.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
