Hello, I am kidsaver and I have resided on the “Were Separated What Now” board for the last 6.5 months. My WAW initiated reconciliation on December 15th 2006, this was a surprise but she said she wanted to work on our R, she wanted her marriage back and wanted to move home. We agreed not to rush into it and she would not move back for probably 30 days and we would work on our issues rather than put band aids on the problems.
We have spent everyday together since December 16 2006. Sometimes most of the day sometimes just a couple of hours. For the most part I can not complain, because it has been very good progress and much better sitch then the dark months of the separation. In retrospect I would say I did a good job of dbing over the separation period.
I have decided to post here in hopes of getting good advice and support from others in the reconciliation mode. While I have found reconciliation to be just as hard as trying to get your WAW to work on the R, it is certainly not as painful. I was very active on the “Were Separated” board and I understand it takes some time to get some interaction going with new people on this forum. I am real good about posting other peoples threads.
My biggest goal is learn from others here and not make mistakes in the reconciliation process and of course seal the deal. You are certainly relieved and ecstatic when you get to the reconciliation mode, but I can recognize there is still much work to do. We originally talked about 30 days for her to move home. It has been 3 weeks and I get the feeling she isn’t ready yet. All though things are going very well, I have a little bit of a feeling we are at a plateau and she is a little scared. All in all it is going very well so far, but I am getting a little bit impatient. You work so hard just to get to this point and you can almost taste it, so I am trying to be disciplined and not put any pressure on her.
So I am going to dive into this forum. All comments and questions regarding my sitch are welcome and I look forward to getting to know some of you.
kidsaver
Me: 44 WAW: 36 S-18, D-13, S-8 Married: 14 years in April Bomb: 6/06 Separated: 7/06 Reconciliation initiated: 12/15/06
