Quote: I know we can go no where with our R if he is right in the middle of this A.
I am in the same boat. You have to be the stronger one here if you want anychance of saving your M. Only choice you have to is to put the OW out of your mind and enjoy the moments that you have with your H. Is it fair to half to share them? Hell no. Is it fair that he is having his cake and eating it too? Hell no. But as LBS's we have two choices. STAY AND FIGHT....or Move on.
It seems that you have made your descision already so get the thoughts of a D out of your head. What good would it do you anyway? You pretty much are D'ed right now anyway. Just try and start that new and improved R with your H. Prove to him through your actions that you are the better choice for him. Also if the OW keeps that crap up about no future for the two of them if H still loves you, That is a bonus for you. As a man, I know I hate it when people tell me what I can and can not do and it would definitly keep pushing me away. Hell the jealousy that this skank has over you is a big bonus in your sitch. Look at the positives here not just the negatives.
Just my 2 cents, O
Ben 32 STBXW 29 3 kids (D1,S4,SD8) (1 dog 5months) Status: Fighting for the Kids.
"The only thing we know about future developments is that they will develope."
