2nd Affair in 2 Years!

[Heywyre]

It's one thing to be honest and open and it's another to be downright RUDE!!! I feel he is totally rubbing your face in it.

I know there are a lot of other suggestions on here. One of the male posters has a similar situation. Personally, I couldn't do that. As the old saying goes - Sh!t or get off the pot!

You either want to work on this M or you don't. There comes a time when one (either you or H) have to make a decision. It's not easy but you have to do what's right for YOU. If he is not willing to take that first step you need to, for your own sanity.

My H told me initially something along the lines that he was "working" on telling the OW - kind of weening himself off. Sorry but I couldn't live like that. I said, "you have a choice, either be with her and let me go or get rid of her - 100% - and work towards trying to reconcile this M". We talked about separating for a while but he was concerned if we separated I wouldn't want him back and it would be final, we talked about perhaps it not working regardless of his efforts to refrain from seeing OW. He weighed and balanced his options and was still sitting on the fence. I finally told him that it was time for him to let me go. He cried almost uncontrollably and made the decision right there and then to work on our M and attempt to get OW 100% out of his life.

Of course, he still has the emotional pull towards her - which he tells me about - but I know for a fact, he has not gone to see her since making that decision. I am still a little skeptical that he has not called her at all, but I am keeping my fingers crossed and trying not to think about it. I have to reserve my sanity at this time