You are so right, it is crap to deal with our problems by going outside of our marrige. I was trying to get him to tell me why he did it twice.. I understand why he felt unhappy but how could he possibly feel that the way to deal with that unhappiness was to have another affair.
That's what I'm so unsure about.. He says he wants to go to counseling and work on our marriage. Right now I can't even trust that this is true! We went through this once before.. Whatever was broke really was never fixed the first time. Now I'm not sure that we are morally and ethically compatable.
