Sorry I didn't take all of your advise but you did give me confidence I needed...thanks.
I went and apologized for loosing my cool. She was very understanding and even somewhat ackwoledge that this was the first major blow up I have had since all this has happeded. She even said that she "probably desirved" all that I said to her when I was raging. Went very positive. Even had some postive R talk brought on by her. I did reinstate that I still do not agree with this D, and as long as he is in the picture that I can't do it I am done and if she needed me I would be here. She was almost in tears (dont know if that is a good sign or not) I know I repeated myself but I did come off a lot better in person than in the email I sent.
