There are going to be so many others who will read of your current sitch and be green with envy! I think things are going well for you. That having been said, don't get too excited. In trying to answer your question, I came upon a few of my own.
You said, "She told me she does not want a D". Has she actually used those words? Does she not want *a* D (as in, I hate to think of myself as divorced or that my marriage failed) or does she not want *this* D (as in, I don't want to D you and I'm asking my attorney to abandon the case)?
You said, "...she has tried to get ahold of her lawyer (a way of saying to me that she does not want the D.)". Unless she has explicitly stated this (see above), how do you know that this is what it means to your WAW?
In short, it is not difficult to contact a lawyer, leave a message that you have changed your mind, or write a letter stating you no longer want a D and want the case dropped. The fact that this hasn't happened leads me to believe your WAW is not quite ready to give up on the idea.
Still, it looks for all the world as though she is definitely no longer dead set on it and is probably having doubts about the whole thing. So, don't get too depressed that the D isn't dead yet, but don't get ahead of yourself either because...again...the D isn't dead yet.
I don't know about the county you are in, but in mine, unless a court date is set within six months of filing, the case is dismissed by default. If this is true for you, then if your WAW doesn't act in the timeframe provided, the D will be dead by default at some point (unless, of course, she chooses to file again).
