Just getting started peicing it back together 2

[jersting]

if we both make it, it will be because we learn to live our lives without at least the EXTRA expectations, the ones that we used to try to define and govern our wives life.

If you think about this statement, I realize that my wife has expected things from me but never tried to govern my life. I have tried to govern my wife. I think it would be ok to have expectations if we could controll our expectations, if they don't turn out the way we want. Our wifes can seem to controll their expectations. They get a little grumpy if we don't live up to their expectations but they don't try to make us live up to them the way I have tried to make her live up to my expectations of her. This statement really deserves alot of thought.