Here's the problem; EXPECTATIONS DO NOT HAVE A PLACE IN YOUR R WITH YOUR WIFE. Period. Never. Not now, not if you move back in, not 6 months from now, not ten years from now, NEVER.
Your feelings have nothing to do with that. Ok, so you kiss her and you get a woody. Fine, you got a woody and you WANT her but you don't NEED her. You can't EXPECT that just because you get aroused, physically, emotionally or both, you can't EXPECT her to do what you want.
Desire is a turn on in some circumstances but it can easily turn to expectation. Look at the recent speed bumps in my sitch for proof of that. I THOUGHT I was simply expressing desire for my W and what I was really doing was communicating to her what I EXPECTED her to do. She started noticing the difference and when she did, poof, gone was the "magic" of the last few months.
I know there is MUCH more to my sitch, and yours, but in the end, if we both make it, it will be because we learn to live our lives without at least the EXTRA expectations, the ones that we used to try to define and govern our wives life.
