FWIW, I think GH is dead on here, and I'd even suggest that your W's behavior may be a good thing that you should appreciate for another reason: whatever she does with you, she wants to be able to put her entire heart into it and not go through the motions. It takes them a while, I think, to get comfortable with all that again.
Sort of like getting in the ocean when it's not quite warm and a little choppy...get in for a sec, then get out and stay out a while, then get in for a little longer, etc.
I think the important thing is to do what GH said...appreciate it, and don't rush it. You can't speed things up, not in your power, but you CAN slow things down if you frustrate her.
All in all, it sounds great at this point. Try to enjoy it and let it happen. It may feel like you will always be at the mercy of her "momentary feelings", but it won't be like that forever, I don't think.
You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means. -- Inigo Montoya, 'The Princess Bride'
