If your post is a true representation of your present state, then I think you have come to a good place. I have often prayed for clarity for you and it seems you have achieved it.
As for "moving on", I think some people believe it can only mean a R with another person. I don't agree. I think you have moved on (in a healthy sense) already. There may be a time for a new woman in your life, but don't worry about it. You'll know when it's right and you'll be doing it not because of a crippling emotional need or to "show her", but because you are simply ready to share your life with someone else.
