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Hi jersting. Long time no post.

I'll quote you in bold:

Someone has just come to me and told me they seen my w in the video store with another man last week.

Well, how accurate is this information? How trustworthy is the source. Is this perhaps someone seeing a man talk to your W, putting 2+2 together and getting 5? (i.e. what that person saw isn't really what happened?).

I tried to get ahold of her about son who was sick one night last week and she did not come home that night.

OK. You tried to get a hold of her and couldn't. How does that directly lead to the conclusion of

she didn't come home that night ?

I think she has backslid from wanting to reconcile and she is full steam ahead of us staying apart.

Maybe she has, maybe she hasn't. Have you heard this from her directly? Even if you did, would you believe it, given that Michelle says beleive nothing of what they say and half of what they do?

I think she just don't have the right mental attitude to tell me anymore that she does not want our marriage.

And you know this how?

Jesrt, buddy, I see this as nothing but you jumping to conclusions based on assumptions. Now, I'm not naive, presumably neither are you. You might be right, and everything is exactly as you suspect. But, unless I've missed something, you're taking a puzzle with 90% of the pieces missing and describing what the whole looks like? Am I wrong here?

If I'm not wrong, then what you're doing is ASSuming.

Of course, what you need to be doing is not worrying about what she's doing/what her motivations are, etc., etc., etc.

What this really sounds like to me is this (and I've heard this from you before, thought similar things myself):

I'm not exactly sure I want to continue to fight for my M, given the uncertainty/vacillation surrounding my Ws words/actions.

Are you giving up? I hope not, since, unless there's more to the story that I've missed, I think you're building a straw man here.

If I'm way off base, here, I apologize in advance. But at first glance, I see this post as one like I've seen from you before. A temporary moment of doubt, mostly brought on by unwarranted analysis of Ws motives, which you cannot know. Am I wrong?

Take care, man, and stay strong. You can do this. I believe in you.