You will get over it, and surprisingly there will come a time when you can think about it and it doesn't hurt. Honestly!!! It just takes a loooong time to get to that point. In 10 years it will be healed. I know!!! When I think about my husband's first affair (the post baby one... this last was the ML one ), I have absolutely no pain... and I do know the details and visualized them a lot in the past. Now they mean absolutely nothing and create no pain in me. Surprisingly, I think my husband has more guilt and bad feelings about that first one than I do. To me it was a long time ago and I worked through all that. Now the recent one, that's another story entirely... oh well....
But I'm doing good!!! Maybe even better than before the affair. Can't stop GALing!!!!
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
), I have absolutely no pain... and I do know the details and visualized them a lot in the past. Now they mean absolutely nothing and create no pain in me. Surprisingly, I think my husband has more guilt and bad feelings about that first one than I do. To me it was a long time ago and I worked through all that. Now the recent one, that's another story entirely... oh well.... 