I hope this will help. I am a recovering, almost no more ow. It is not a person on top of the world who could knowinly make a choice to be romantically involved with a maried person.
For that matter, it is not a person on top of the world who would cheat on their spouse.
In my opinion, 2 weakened people (for whatever reason) come across each other and reason like crazy to justify temporary escape, relief.
People who do what we do are just avoiding the hard work it takes to deal with ourselves. The saddest thing about that is, whatever is bothering us is still there. Also, much of what is bothering us isn't even our fault, but if we don't get to the bottom of it, we don't realize that. But we choose behaviour that is our fault and feel worse instead of better.
I've had to do some major forgiving in my lifetime. It isn't always the easiest thing to do. It is the most rewarding when it has truly happened. I wish you the best of luck with this and every other goal.
