Need to forgive OW and move on... help!!!!

[~Sol]

I have these similar emotions/thoughts that I struggled with too. It is so similar to what I felt that it's scary!

Anyways, I told him of my fear that she'd always be in his heart, that he cherished her memory and stuff. Whereas he told me anytime any A stuff comes up he recoils from it, the whole thing, wants it to be gone altogether and does not want to think about it at all.

That's exactly how my past talks with my W went, and what I was feeling/thinking. She wants to bury it, and let it fade.

It's almost surreal to me that my W wants to work on our M now, and I don't know why I was backsliding so much.

Cat is right, focus on the "now" and remember the good things you do together. It's a new relationship now.