Need to forgive OW and move on... help!!!!

[cat03]

Hey hon, it took me a while but ow's thoughts aren't in my mind eveyr hr as they used to be *gasp*!! I never thougth i'd be possible.

I used to try and demonize and tear down anything ow, i found her myspace account and learnt more than I needed about her. I tried so hard to find fault in every thing about her, down to the last detail. Then I thougth "this is just another person w/likes and dislikes like me, it was not those things my H was attracted to, she was just THERE, that's all that was to it, not all the minutia that I make such a big deal of.

I agree with the above posts, it was the H who sough her, and not because she was all that, only because he needed a crutch, she isnt' all that special.

I had one rare talk about ow w/my H the other day, we dont' talk about the A anymore, is pretty dead and buried, so it was rare that we brough it up. Anyways, I told him of my fear that she'd always be in his heart, that he cherished her memory and stuff. Whereas he told me anytime any A stuff comes up he recoils from it, the whole thing, wants it to be gone altogether and does not want to think about it at all.

We women are more emotional and put so much more significance on things/events, remember that your H isnt' like that and that most likely you are the one thinking of ow.

Flood your brain w/good books, good ideas, memories of good things your H and you do together now. Hugs honey, it will be behind you, believe it.