Quote: she took off the ring and started telling friends and family that it is off
Why is it that you're still hanging around?
Honey, you are being given your walking papers AND an open door. I'm so sorry about the job thing-- but as you point out, that could be a blessing in disguise.
What are you waiting for? I don't mean that as a rhetorical question... is there some particular thing you need to get permission to walk? She's taken off the ring. She's telling her friends and family that the wedding is off. What more do you need?
Do you feel as if YOU have failed in some way and you don't want to walk away from a failure? This is simply a case of wanting different things in a relationship. You are so young. You have the chance to find real happiness with a woman who is crazy about you AND your body. You have a chance to find someone with whom you can share a lifetime of love and lovemaking producing beautiful children... someone to walk with through difficult times, knowing that you have a solid foundation beneath your feet. Are you likely to have that future with your current girlfriend (if you can still call her that)?
But take this warning seriously: if you do break up with this gf and you start dating again, WATCH OUT for red flags early in the relationship. When you see one: RUN. Take it slow and don't get in too deep until you feel you are on solid ground. There is no need to rush these things.
