thanks hairdog. that is GREAT advice. i actually DID enjoy sleeping on the couch last night! the back supports you so you can kind of lean in to it, do you know what i mean? and you're right about the 'un/conditional' thing - man i've been trying to figure out why it just doesn't ring true. other people were saying the same thing as you, but that kind of hit it home for me. and there is NO WAY i am going to feel guilty for needing so much sex. granted, a relationship is a two-way street and i need to understand what role i play in contributing to her LD. but the 'trump' card statement is so true. her hard-nosed insistence that i commit before she can begin to change may be my only way out of a potentially sexless marriage. i love her immensely, but i am SO GLAD that i have finally put this in terms that she understands. thanks everyone...
