I'll second what Burgbud is saying. I'm NOT saying you have a deep-seated problem that will sabotage you for the rest of your life.
All I am saying is... it takes two people to create a problem, and two people to solve it. We ALL have to learn how to problem solve... if you find some stuff below the hood that has been driving you in unconscious ways, and you find it, it's better to fix it than to put duck tape on it and hope it holds, kwis?
You are NOT willing to negotiate on your sex needs, and honestly... you are even willing to NOT move forward with an M because of it. Do you know how much further along the road you are than most people, simply because you KNOW this about yourself? I'm not making light or criticizing your for how important you think sex is. (It is). She just sees it differently. And that isn't bad. But it does create a problem.
Nothing that is happening with you is necessarily good or bad... so if what I'm saying is sounding critical to you, I apologize. I don't mean for it to. I'm just saying... in ANY R you get into... problems are going to crop up... whether it is sex or something else.
You are in a situation right now where you have an opportunity to learn how to problem-solve. Your W2B is hurting... so are you... but give her a few days... she's a big girl. She'll get over her hurt. If she DOESN'T... then that tells you something.
If YOU back off now, and make HER feel better, she puts her ring back on, and the wedding plans go forward full steam... that is going to tell you something about you.
