Quote: lilli - the lack of desire is NOT a turn on to me.
I didn't mean that her lack of desire was a turn-on. I meant her lack of AVAILABILITY might be a turn-on... her lack of ACCESSIBILITY... the fact that she is so hard to get.
Sometimes there can be an irresistible pull toward someone who dismisses us, kwim? Theoretically, if you love someone, but they do not want to be intimate, logically (nod to cobra) we should not even want to be around them... certainly we should not want to marry them. And yet how many of us (actually just about everyone in this forum) are with someone that we have to drag to the bedroom. This makes no sense... and yet it happens.
Ask yourself what does it feel like to be rejected by her... and why do you keep going back for more? Yeah, you love her (to quote Prince Charles: "whatever that means"). You're in love with an ideal that doesn't have much chance of being realized. You're setting yourself up for a lifetime of frustration (or however long this marriage lasts).
And as someone else asked, why did a previous engagement of hers end? Who ended it? Her or the guy?
