wow. that had not really occurred to me. maybe i am so blinded by the sex thing that i cannot even fathom what kind of a couple we would be. all i think about is sex. someone on this board said it's 80% of what you think about if it's not happening, and 20% of what you think about if it is. we really don't have very much in common. we are just in love each other. i like the fact we're so different because that's what turns me on to her. and if being turned on is my biggest criteria to get married, everything seems to be in order. i.e. i'm in love with her because she is so different - so 'other'. maybe if we had a lot of sex i would lose interest in her... but what i imagine will happen is that having a lot of sex with her will bring us closer together and we will be able to explore the mysteries of each other's different perspective on life. i know it sounds weird, but i honestly believe i am so in love with her because of how mysterious she is to me. i believe she will always be. ok going too deep here... but thanks for the input. i, for one, believe sex can be a central theme throughout a marriage. it's more than just icing. i am determined to be in a marriage where we make love 2-3 times a week (the US avg) or more for way into our old age. sure my libido may go down one day... but you can't plan your life around how you'll feel in the future. i appreciate other people sharing their stories - but, like i said, i'm an idealist and i think sex can be great through a lifetime.
