last day before 1st therapy

[Heywyre]

i thought that's what *marriage* was supposed to be!! the GUARANTEE that you have someone at home who wants to get it on with you tonight! or at least in the very near future.

You don't know how far from the truth that really is. I can understand that is your thinking - at 28 - you don't think about much else. However, marriage is a heck of a lot more than that and sex is just the icing on the cake.

Being I live in a sexless - yes sexless - marriage, it has been like that for some time (years as a matter of fact) and I am the HD partner (by a long shot) it is not easy.

However, I have also been married before to a much HD partner and can tell you I would rather be where I am now that to be with him. That's all he wanted, all he wanted, all he wanted. There was nothing more to him and you can't survive a relationship based on that. Eventually, believe it or not, your drive will diminish and then what? Hard to imagine, I know, but my H used to be a HD person too (in his younger days from what I hear - I can't keep track as to how many women he had - and this is from his friends, not his own bragging)

Marriage is a committment - for better or for worse - and unless you are willing to sacrifice that, I think you better seriously think about what you are doing before you actually go through with it. Quite personally, I don't think you are ready for it