Muddle, I've got to stop reading your posts at work! I end up pondering and getting nothing done Your post made me think maybe what is happening is I'm getting into the "save my M" approach versus the "make my life the best it can be" approach. Once we start spending too much time trying to "read" and "interpret" what the other is thinking, it's a quick downward spiral! So I must do the things that will make me feel good about me versus what "might" affect the sitch in some good or bad way. Thanks! I like the idea of checking with her in the future to ask how she is experiencing my new approach to things. And lastly, yes, hugging is wonderful! I've told her that when I hold her I feel that all is right with the world. It is so true. That physical intimacy often evaporates ill feelings that I have inside, I always feel happy and connected with her afterwards. It's a nice connection and I do treasure it when it happens. I do make a point of not pushing for this often. On the other hand, isn't it kind of pathetic to keep pushing for physical affection from somone who says she doesn't love you? Ah, there I go again As always, thanks Muddle.
