I don't think there's anything wrong with asking for what you want. If she gives (her choice as an autonomous person) then it's her choice and there shouldn't be resentment. Respect her ability to choose for herself. Respect your ability to ask for what you want. If she didn't want to hug you she wouldn't have for a minute, much less an hour. I think the important thing here is that you recognize your autonomy - you recognize your choice to give. If you want to give, then you give. She's not pressuring you or manipulating you to do what you choose to, and you shouldn't be giving in order to get her to give back. Just because she has told you how she feels doesn't mean that you have to change the way you feel - you can still feel the way you do and share this with her. This is part of self respect - and if you sacrifice your self respect you can not respect others. What you do to yourself you do to others.
You are you, so of course your needs are your concern. Relationships are not about sacrifice - that's a recipe for disaster. If you hide your wants then you are being dishonest. Is being dishonest respectful? I think it comes accross as manipulative and controlling. Now, if you think you owe her an apology, you might. You might want to think about how you are really disrespecting her, because there's nothing wrong with asking for what you want. Trying to coerce and manipulate what you want IS disrespectful.
“No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it. ” – Albert Einstein
