Heywyre, I really am not beating myself up here! I know it might look that way but my anger towards myself (is not that intense ) but is a sudden recognition that if I want my M then I need to respond to the sitch, not just ME, if that makes any sense. If I want to be viewed as a great H, who is so caring etc but be divorced, then I can carry on the way I have. If I want my M then I must look at the sitch and do what it demands, not what makes me look and feel good. Yes, she treats me rather poorly and how much of that am I bringing on myself by stuffing that loving crap down her throat day after day. I need to give her space and as AT says, look after ME in a better way. Thanks for the 2 X 4 and the encouragement! Different opinions are really helpful in thinking things through.
) but is a sudden recognition that if I want my M then I need to respond to the sitch, not just ME, if that makes any sense. If I want to be viewed as a great H, who is so caring etc but be divorced, then I can carry on the way I have. If I want my M then I must look at the sitch and do what it demands, not what makes me look and feel good. Yes, she treats me rather poorly and how much of that am I bringing on myself by stuffing that loving crap down her throat day after day. I need to give her space and as AT says, look after ME in a better way. Thanks for the 2 X 4 and the encouragement! Different opinions are really helpful in thinking things through. 