I've been thinking about respect today (thanks for the repies btw!). I've been on the BB bitching about my W's lack of respect for me but today I've just realized that I have not been respecting her! She has told me that she does not want our relationship and I have not respected that. As I said previously, I'm constantly doing nice, caring things which serves to stick it in her face daily. Yes, I mean them as caring and loving gestures but is it respectful to keep doing things that are not asked for and, in fact, may actually be unhelpful to the sitch?
Last weekend I asked my W if we could hug in bed and she complied. We hugged for one hour. WTF was I thinking! Here is a woman who has told me she is not interested in me yet I persist in asking for affection!!! That must create resentment rather than affection. Here I am accusing her of being ME ME ME all the time and yet, I look at what I am doing and now wonder, am I any different? Despite what she's told me and shown me in her behaviour, I persist in doing what makes ME feel good, then martyr myself for being rejected. Yes, I'm the model husband, Mr. good guy which of course makes her the bad guy, how fair is that? I'm angry at myself tonight, I actually feel I owe her an apology! It's time to grow up here. So, any feedback on my revelation would be appreciated.
