The small things, yes! I started thinking about what things she has done recently to show caring and actually came up with a few! Last week, when it was icy out, she called to me upon leaving to "please, drive carefully, it's very icy out there" , she asked me if I would like another blanket on my side of the bed because she found it rather chilly at night. She then folded it out onto my bed for me, she brought me soup that she had cooked, she stayed home on Sat night because I had made plans for myself (no grouching). So, I guess there are some small things to keep tabs on and recognize. I also had some thoughts about the rudeness and wonder whether every time I do something "caring" am I sticking the marital situation in her face? When someone is constantly saying, not in words but..., "I care, I care, I care..." it can become rather annoying and a constant reminder of what is not there right now for her. Maybe I should seriously look at toning it down and giving her space. It would be hard to do but it may be a viable option to consider. I'll ponder it some more.
