Pushing it to the limit...still!

[Heywyre]

Whine away Whatisis - that's what we are here for (within reason that is )

As for the letter you came across, sorry but I have to disagree with you there. I don't care what her "reasons" are, there is absolutely no need for the rudeness she is putting out. Yes, we tend to take the worse out on the ones closest to us but all the time? I hardly think so.

Her saying she "resents" people expecting things from her is HER problem. Obviously she is not dealing with the issues when they arise. How you feel about other people is not their problem, its YOURS. If she feels like people expect things from her, she needs to take stock of how to change that. It is not your position to do that for her.

If she is having problems at work, wouldn't it be nice to be able to come home and vent to the person she is supposedly in love with? Heck, my H hears my whining, that you can be sure of. It's what we do. We need to vent and she's not doing it - good or bad. I can't help but think you are getting the crappy end of the stick here. I know you are doing everything in your power to help this R along but I have to say, she needs to get her act together and start contributing too. It can't all be one-sided.

(my opinion only of course)

Hang in there Whatisis - you definitely have a whole heck of a lot more patience than me.