Thanks everybody! Sometimes I just let these little things get to me. It seems there's always something happening now that adds stress. My brother just lost his job, my Dad is still not well and then my friend passing away. I guess part of me just wants someone to give me a hug and, naturally, I'd like it from the person who has been my partner for 17 years. Maybe I can visualize it! I have tried to point out her behaviours in the past, it was one of my 180's, but it made no difference in fact it resulted in a lengthy letter (which she chose not to deliver, but I came across accidentally) saying how much she resents anyone expecting things from her. She said she has to deal with resistence and criticism at work and just wants to come home and not have to be caring, pleasant etc. It was really a sad letter, I keep a copy to remind me that there are issues deeper than just ME! I too can't figure how common basic courtesy is so difficult. I guess it's that old adage that you take things out on those you are closest to. Anyway, maybe I'll try being a little more demanding in that regard, I mean what's gonna happen, will she stop loving me LOL. There were some good things I've noticed over the past few weeks at our dance class. We are now adept enough that we can actually look at fine tuning things. I've noticed that we talk during the class and problem solve together certain moves that are giving us trouble. That is a baby step! yes, she still points out my mistakes (and never encourages) but we work together more often. That was one of my goals in taking this class was to have something we could learn and work at together. We'll see how that goes.
Again thanks everybody for listening to my whining, I needed to do it last night. No more "poor me" today or I'll break a 2 X 4 over my own head!!!
