1210, great to see you dropping by...I got your message on LL's thread. You really think she'll go to counselling with me? Personally, I don't think there is a hope in Hell! But, I've been wrong before I just think that for her to go to C'ing would mean she is doubting her decision (in her mind) in regards to OP and if that is the case then the Hell she is inflicting on her family is and has been pointless. So by not going she is showing that she is firm in her decision. She is not interested in anything that could be considered an attempt to try and save this M. That would be disloyal to OP. Now, will she ever see it differently? Who knows, one thing I am a believer in is never closing the door because you "think" something is a certain way. I am willing to wait it out for a while and see what comes but the next step (in consultation with the therapist) may well be to pull the plug on this as I will not live forever in such an insane situation. This could be the way to actually save the M, if that makes sense. The problem is that right now the day to day life seems relatively normal and sane but the underlying stuff is crazy! I have worked hard to keep my homelife as healthy and loving for my family as possible (my W has too, for what she's able to do). Time will tell how this story plays out. Talk to you soon 1210!
I just think that for her to go to C'ing would mean she is doubting her decision (in her mind) in regards to OP and if that is the case then the Hell she is inflicting on her family is and has been pointless. So by not going she is showing that she is firm in her decision. She is not interested in anything that could be considered an attempt to try and save this M. That would be disloyal to OP. Now, will she ever see it differently? Who knows, one thing I am a believer in is never closing the door because you "think" something is a certain way. I am willing to wait it out for a while and see what comes but the next step (in consultation with the therapist) may well be to pull the plug on this as I will not live forever in such an insane situation. This could be the way to actually save the M, if that makes sense. The problem is that right now the day to day life seems relatively normal and sane but the underlying stuff is crazy! I have worked hard to keep my homelife as healthy and loving for my family as possible (my W has too, for what she's able to do). Time will tell how this story plays out. Talk to you soon 1210! 