Well, W and I just returned from a lunch out together. I took her to a new Cafe neither of us had been to. We talked through the whole lunch. We discussed the usual kid stuff but I also brought up my school experience last weekend. I began to describe to her the SF approach to counselling and she asked me questions, which I tried to answer as best I could. I deliberately did this to keep our conversation of this morning alive in her head and to give her a better idea of what this counselling model would entail. Maybe relieve some anxiety. I feel pretty good about this morning because I did something different, I threw a little wrench into the works! Things are NOT the same now. She must respond in some way, hopefully in a positive way but either way the status quo is now in question.
I feel that she basically wants to take no responsibility for anything here, it's the "try not to be the bad guy" approach. If I decide I want to leave then that makes me the bad guy, not her. This is what I want to get away from and get to a mutuality in decision making. If we split, then it is a joint decision, if we try to make a go of it, it's a joint decision. I don't want bad guy versus good guy here. So, I'll wait this out a bit and let W process this new development and go from there. I've planted the seeds and watered them now lets see what grows!
