Heywyre, the "never assume" thing is indeed a toughie! I can remember a few times recently when I would have staked my life on something I believed to be so re my W's actions and, guess what, I was wrong every time. I think the problem is that we see things through our emotional screens, we take facts and warp them into whatever fits our frame of mind at the time. This is exactly what our S's do to us too. Much of their memories about the M are based on their own emotional screens which no more reflect reality than our own do! That's why we hear these incredible statements like "I don't think I ever loved you", "we should never have gotten married", "I was never happy in this R"...it's all people's emotional screens. Then we sit there remembering all the good times cuz that's what we want to look at. Assumptions are one of the best ways to blow things big time. When we act on assumption mistaking it for fact, we mess up. So, it's best not to go there! I thank D9 for that reminder.
