You arent' alone 1210! Well, I had to really stuff it down tonight. W came home in a pissy mood then told me she was going out to get something. When she returned she seemed a little perkier, she told me she bought me something for lunch tomorrow too. I thanked her. I then thought I should pass on something that happened to my brother today. I told her that he had been suspended from work, was walked out of the building ...Her response was NOTHING. I waited for a "what happened?" NOTHING. I felt angry and held back the snarky comment that was forming on my lips and left the room. I helped D with homework. I thought about asking W what was wrong but then decided not to. Whenever I do I get "I don't need counselling" or "don't bother me" or "I'm fine, I don't need your help". After kids went to bed I came down to the computer, she came after me and asked if I would like to finish the story about my brother. I proceeded to fill in the sad details and told her I had encouraged him to call me anytime for anything he needed. She sighed and stood up, I asked "is there anything YOU need right now? Can I do anything to help out?" Well, I got a big irritated sigh "whenever you say that I feel like I'm talking to a social worker" I said " Well, I just want you to know I'm here for you if you need anything" she said "I'm tired and too many things are happening" and she walked away. Guess I should have stuck to not bothering.
Now as far as is she a L. I asked her that once when she announced her A. She said that she didn't know what she was, that it was just something that happened between two people and she didn't want to label it. I think it's mainly an emotional bond between two very needy people. Both have plugged into the needy part of the other and can't let go. That's my story and I'm sticking to it!
P.S. Tom you are absolutely right. As a Dad I will do anything to stay in my father role, you will exist in Hell to do that. My D's are the most precious things (I hate to call them things) in my life right now. When I drop D9 at gymnastics she always says "You are the best daddy in the whole wide world and I love you forever and ever" then she throws me a kiss and in front of everyone yells "I love you, drive safely" What more is there to say?
