Maybe I'm projecting my sitch onto yours a bit, but we always seemed to be in synch to some degree or another. It seems to me that you are observing your wife and her actions from a distance. What are you doing to connect with her? I know you're doing the BR dancing and other activities, but I get this defensive position from you. You seem to react to your wife saying things to or about you with an attitude of "she's nuts" or some other judgement that puts her into a subordinate position to the one you veiw yourself in. I wonder what might happen if you examine your need to be defensive and looked to connect rather than defend yourself in these situations. I think you will find that by focusing on connecting rather than looking to understand her the way you are now you will both have a better experience in interacting. There will be a relationship worth saving.
My $0.02 from where I sit.
“No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it. ” – Albert Einstein
