When I talk about being scared I think the issue is that in some ways it's easy to continue living this way, strange as that sounds. We get along for the most part, both love our kids and I can continue to be nice and loving. This strategy I have adopted in dealing with the sitch is comfortable. When I have to branch off into something different that may not be in my comfort zone, that creates anxiety. But that is DBing isn't it! I will just go see the counsellor (who is Solution Focused btw) and will see what strategies we can unearth but ultimately I have to decide what I am ready to do. There may actually be somewhere in between LRT and what I am presently doing, I'm just not aware of it. We'll see. Hey, W just told me that a woman friend of ours is looking into a trip to Disney World for both our families next Christmas! My W is so out there its not funny. She's planning our Christmas for next year, geez, is she that sure of me? If so, I've got a lot of work to do. Btw, the H of our friend once told me "don't go to Disney World, it's a trip to Hell, I'll never go back!", I wonder if he knows what his W is planning for his next Christmas, I doubt it! I kind of want to be there when she springs it on him
You're really coming down? Great news...no hug for the wife, but I would definitely pull her into a bathroom and tell her what an idiot she is for hurting her H so much.
1210,that works for me! But you could try giving her a warm welcoming gift like a Chia pet, it might just find itself a perfect home on the "Dresser of Honour", you never know. Froggie would be so pleased.
If you ever do vacation in the Akron area Whatisis.. well you could go visit the "World of Rubber".. the Inventors Hall of Fame.. the the NFL Hall of Fame..the bar (the spot where the bar used to be) where Devo first played.. Chrissy Hyndes mom's house.. my alma mater KSU to see the bullet hole outside Taylor Hall and Blanket Hill... Dr. Bob's home.. Luigi's which is the restaurant that inspired Montoni's in the comic strip "Funky Winkerbean"... umm. something else... thinking... oh.. The Soap Box Derby Track...and The Rubber Bowl.. :
Oh sure, Tom. You just had to dangle that unattainable carrot right over my head, didn't you! Akron, Akron oh how my heart yearns for you now, Akron. Yet it is a beauty I shall never see...I'm tearing up, gotta go! You really know how to hurt a guy, Tom.
OK, it's so quiet I'll just talk about myself tonight. BR dance II was a roaring success. I aced the Quickstep and the Cha Cha! I was hot tonight. W was in a great mood, she even laughed out loud at one of my humorous antics. She did get a little pissed near the end cuz there was just one small step we were messing up to re-start a sequence and she couldn't figure out what it was! I said "forget it, let's just have fun" (Oh, I do like to play dangerously). Finally, I flagged the teacher down and it got put to rest. It was really nice to feel competent out there for a change W actually conversed with me in the car on the way to and back (another first). Usually she's so fixated on whatever little work issue is in her head that I don't exist. So, we had a good night, and teacher actually said we were doing fine! Whew, got to lie down now. P.S. Tom, you didn't mention the Akron Dog Park, c'mon guy. Hey, have you gone dark on me tonight? Where are you? Just cuz 1210 can't come out to play doesn't mean you need to sit and sulk Oh well, I'm heading off too then.
W actually conversed with me in the car on the way to and back (another first). Usually she's so fixated on whatever little work issue is in her head that I don't exist. So, we had a good night, and teacher actually said we were doing fine! Whew, got to lie down now.