When I talk about being scared I think the issue is that in some ways it's easy to continue living this way, strange as that sounds. We get along for the most part, both love our kids and I can continue to be nice and loving. This strategy I have adopted in dealing with the sitch is comfortable. When I have to branch off into something different that may not be in my comfort zone, that creates anxiety. But that is DBing isn't it! I will just go see the counsellor (who is Solution Focused btw) and will see what strategies we can unearth but ultimately I have to decide what I am ready to do. There may actually be somewhere in between LRT and what I am presently doing, I'm just not aware of it. We'll see. Hey, W just told me that a woman friend of ours is looking into a trip to Disney World for both our families next Christmas! My W is so out there its not funny. She's planning our Christmas for next year, geez, is she that sure of me? If so, I've got a lot of work to do. Btw, the H of our friend once told me "don't go to Disney World, it's a trip to Hell, I'll never go back!", I wonder if he knows what his W is planning for his next Christmas, I doubt it! I kind of want to be there when she springs it on him
